This might sound harsh but hear me out. For the past few weeks I’ve been watching conversations in different student groups about courses and university choices. The same question keeps appearing again and again. “What course should I choose?” At first it sounds like a genuine question. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like something deeper is happening. Sometimes when we ask that question, what we are really asking is this. “Can someone help me decide so that the responsibility is not fully mine?” Because if a teacher suggests it, or someone in a WhatsApp group recommends it, or an older student pushes you in that direction, then if things go wrong later you can always say you were advised. But if the decision is completely yours, then the responsibility is also completely yours. And that is uncomfortable. Because choosing a course is not like choosing what to eat for lunch. It feels like you are choosing your entire future. So many of us are secretly hoping someone will just tell us the right answer. But what if there is no perfect answer? What if the real challenge right now is not choosing the perfect course but accepting that whatever you choose will come with uncertainty? So I want to ask honestly. When you ask people what course you should take, are you actually looking for information? Or are you hoping someone else carries part of the responsibility for the decision? I’m curious how others are thinking about this.

This might sound harsh but hear me out. For the past few weeks I’ve been watching conversations in different student groups about courses and university choices. The same question keeps appearing again and again. “What course should I choose?” At first it sounds like a genuine question. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like something deeper is happening. Sometimes when we ask that question, what we are really asking is this. “Can someone help me decide so that the responsibility is not fully mine?” Because if a teacher suggests it, or someone in a WhatsApp group recommends it, or an older student pushes you in that direction, then if things go wrong later you can always say you were advised. But if the decision is completely yours, then the responsibility is also completely yours. And that is uncomfortable. Because choosing a course is not like choosing what to eat for lunch. It feels like you are choosing your entire future. So many of us are secretly hoping someone will just tell us the right answer. But what if there is no perfect answer? What if the real challenge right now is not choosing the perfect course but accepting that whatever you choose will come with uncertainty? So I want to ask honestly. When you ask people what course you should take, are you actually looking for information? Or are you hoping someone else carries part of the responsibility for the decision? I’m curious how others are thinking about this.